If you would deny the ego and scorch it by ignoring it you would be free.” It was the legendary Hindu sage, Ramana Maharshi, who said, “All unhappiness is due to the ego. However, my trek has not been without incredible struggle, as my remarkably powerful ego was repeatedly reminding me that I was a victim! Do not forgive! Hold resentment and continue to plow down the road to ambition while the whisper in my ear repeatedly told me more is better. In the end, my regrettable experience put me on a life-changing journey from one of ambition to one of meaning. Nevertheless, little did I know that my 2017 “aha” moment - quantum change - was allowing me to figure what was most important to me. While I knew intellectually that my thinking was asinine, I continued relentlessly to pursue my “happiness” ambitions and goals, believing it would give me the fulfillment that I wanted and thought I deserved. You know the dialogue - when I achieve A-B-C or when I get X-Y-Z, I will finally be happy. In all seriousness, perhaps like you, I was one of those people who always looked for a better place in the future to bring me the happiness that I was craving. Okay, I will pause now, so you can take out your violins and play me a grief-stricken tune. Just about everything I identified myself with was taken away, including the perception of the perfect couple, perfect marriage, perfect family, financial independence, beautiful home, cars and the rest. After 29 years of marriage, my wife and I divorced. My quantum moment took place March 15, 2017. However, I encourage you not to jump ahead, but to continue to read along.Īs many of us know, times of sudden change in our professional and personal lives can be painful and yet it can be the catalyst to take us to a higher understanding of our purpose and finding our so-called inner peace.
Subjects were given a list of 50 values and asked, “What matters most to you?” The results are at the end of this narrative. In the study, the team asked people to describe their values before and after their quantum change.
Miller and his team of researchers conducted a lifetime study of the impact of quantum changes in one’s life. Miller, distinguished professor of psychology and psychiatry at the University of New Mexico, has extensively researched the psychology of change, and he defines a “quantum change” as a vivid, surprising, benevolent and enduring personal transformation.
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